Thursday, April 16, 2009

I've Been Branded...

Well, it seems that I've either a) pissed someone off really bad or b) pissed someone off really bad... my boss - you all know the one... the micro-manager who is passive aggressive... emails me on Tuesday telling me that he needed to meet with me. Okay... about what you may be asking? I didn't have the faintest clue so at lunch I told him my anxiety was rearing its ugly head and he needed to ease it. I asked if everything was okay and his response was "I think so." But still wouldn't give me a clue as to what he wanted to meet with me over.

I rationalized that if it was bad, he would have pulled me into his office and told me that day. I thought it would be about the pending graduation for my students. I waited until Wednesday after school (Did I mention I had to wait 2 full days to find out what the hell was up?).

Well, it seems that someone sent the article that Yummy was featured in from our local morning paper to the freakin' bishop of my diocese. It seems that Yummy implied from his statement that answered the paper's inquiry about how often he cooks at home that we lived together. For those of you that are not Catholic, this is a HUGE no-no in the eyes of the Church. Yummy's exact statement was "I enjoy cooking for Honey and the princes but don't get to do it as often as I would like because of my schedule. Most chefs, me included, have the worst schedule with working evenings, weekends and holidays. But when I do cook, it's usually for a special event and we tend to make it an all day event."

Please help me here... where, oh where, does it say that he lives at blankety, blank-blank... in ass backwards, USA? How does one get from that statement that we are co-habitating? I'm baffled with this one...

But you see... I was guilty before I was even asked about it. My boss had my termination papers right there. Asked me if Yummy was living with me and I told him that as I told him when Yummy had surgery that he was staying with me because he couldn't be on his feet and needed someone to take care of him. So, yeah, I guess he is... My boss told me that if he was living full time with me then that was grounds for dismissal. I gave him Yummy's address told him to check it out if he needed. Then my boss through a sucker punch at me with I checked Yummy out on and his name comes up with your address and phone number. What the fuck did he just say he did? Ahem, yeah... asshole as I did that intentionally so I wouldn't have creep calling me as being a single mom and all. It's called protecting myself. Duh! Oh, yeah... did I leave out that I have Yummy's name on my checking as a "just in case" measure - if something were to happen to me someone can right checks out and pay for shit since I have no fucking family in the area!

My biggest concern out of all of this was when my boss told me that the letter was sent to the bishop anonymously. What the fuck? Did he just say anonymously? The fucking ball-less cocksucker didn't have the nerve to sign their name when they chose to put my job at stake? What kind of shit is this? What kind of person would do such a thing? And to send it to the freakin' bishop for god's sake... I can see sending it to the priest at the school but to the fucking bishop? That's a little (okay, a lot) excessive. It was sent with the malicious intent on getting me fired. I wasn't smart enough yesterday to ask to see the letter because I was seeing red. (It's fitting since I'm now wearing a Scarlett Letter.)

My boss went on to give me the lecture about getting my freakin' annulment and that this would follow me if I transferred to another school in our diocese. Was that a threat I just heard? I think so. See, I've put my name on the transfer list for this year as I'm licensed in my state to teach the fucking adorable middle school students. I needed to get 2 classes completed this summer to renew my emergency permit but the fuckin' college isn't offering one of my classes and the other not a time that I can take it. Having ones' own kids gets in the way of everything. :) So, if I couldn't find the classes some place else, I was going to have to give up my classroom. It was advised that I try to transfer to another school should a position become available. At this point, I told my boss that I had applied for a preschool position and an elementary position within another district which he made sure to tell me that they only accept applications on-line. Really... didn't know that even though I've already completed everything for it Sherlock.

Now, I'm left wondering if it was a parent, a church member, a co-worker, or my fucking ex-husband (yes, he would do something like this) or one of his many so-called friends. Whomever it was has now ruined my career with the diocese. I'm marked with the Scarlett Letter. Because of this... last night I was ready to sign my resignation letter and turn it in today to my boss. I feel like I'm caught... if I stay, the person will just try again. It looks like I will be giving up my classroom at the end of the year to stay home with the princes. This just takes one thing off my already filled plate and considering I'm adding a legal battle with the ex for full custody of the princes due to his stupidity that will take the jobs spot on the plate, I'd say it just might be divine intervention at its best.

At the moment, I'm sick to my stomach, depressed, pissed off (better than pissed on as one person pointed out to me) and ready to rumble with whoever steps in the way.


Anonymous said...

get em girl!
good luck. Thats a shitty deal. But it'll work out. Good people always win out.

Just me... said...

First, whoever sent the 'article' is simply a cowardly little fucker who shouldn't be given the credibility to even have the 'charge' investigated..
Second, bless your heart!! You poor thing, you work for the Catholic church.. Now, I understand their wanting to make certain that their employees are following the dictates of their religion.. But the dickhead you work for is just another in a long line of pinheads who have reached their limit as far as careers go.. And he's determined to make everyone else as miserable as he is.. I mean, they either hired you as a divorced person or didn't fire you when you got divorced.. Why is it all a big deal now?
However, if they policed themselves as much as they seem to want to police others, perhaps they could have saved themselves several billion dollars and manymanymanymany fucked up kids as well as the hearts of the people who grew tired of the hypocrasy of the rituals without meaning..
Sorry, rant over.. If anyone is ticked with me, well, just put it down to a Baptist who loves an Agnostic (damaged Catholic)..
Can't do a wretched thing for you.. But know that we're pulling for you!!!

Honey said...

Sage - You are absolutely right... good people do win out! Good triumphs evil... I just have to believe that everything will be okay.

Just Me - I couldn't have said it any better. Yes, he hired me divorced although he didn't realize it and I didn't disclose it in the interview for 1) I didn't legally have to tell him and 2) the Church says you can be divorced but not remarried without the blasted annulment.

But you would think that they would be more concerned that they have someone in their flock with a malicious, vengeful heart... isn't that worse than living together? I suppose it's trading one for another.

But you are right about if they would have taken care to 'police' their own, it might have saved billions and all the children from the torture that the Church's 'blind eye' approach has dealt.

As one person told me today, if we are living together and as long as I do my job and not flaunt it to my students or tell them to give the Church the bird, then they should leave me the hell alone!

Thanks for your support... it's much appreciated!

Maggie said...

I think that whomever sent this was chickenshit. I'm surprised that the Church took it seriously, and I'm also wondering if there was more too it- what the article said sure didn't imply that he lived with you. It sounds like evil is afoot.

I think with all the problems and stress of the year, that it might be better to forgo this position. You are better than they deserve. You have most certainly paid your dues to this school and yet, they are still policing you.

While I feel that even teaching in a 'religious" organization, the Church shouldn't have a right to police your love life, among other things.

I hope that whatever you decide to do, you're happy. You deserve it. There are other schools, better schools, places where your efforts and energy will be respected and welcomed.

Good luck.

TUG said...

On your last day you need to tell him thank you for the blessing in disguise and he shouldn't be jealous he can't get laid by Yummy!

{{ d a n i m o }} said...

wow. i'm sorry some anonymous idiot put all this stress on your shoulders! i can't believe your idiot boss waited 2 full days before even giving you a clue about such catastrophic news. o_O

i feel you though: that ready to rumble with whomever attitude was fully alive within me yesterday with all the drama i went through. GRR!