Saturday, May 16, 2009

A dog's bark is not always worse than it's bite...

Uugghh... I started a post but got interrupted by a dog fight between two of my girls. It seems that my Boxer of 2 years has now taken a dislike to the two new girls that I adopted in February. The vet says it's a dominance aggression issue and she has an appt. for the vet school to see the doggie "crazy" doctor but after today, I'm not so sure if it's worth the trip down to the school to see if they can figure it out. Lucy is fine with all of us and as long as I have the other two girls locked up in their crates, everything is hunky dorie... Last weekend she sent Maggie to the vet ER clinic for some deep puncture wounds. I've spent a week rotating them all out of crates and front room so each has time to spend with the family. Lucy hasn't done anything to Miley so today I decided I'd let them play together for a while but that last all of 2 seconds when Lucy decided to bite Miley in the butt. That's right...

I'm to the point now that I don't know if the vet school would be any help or not. Her appt. is 6 weeks out because they are that booked up. I guess that just shows all the dogs that have issues! lol I emailed the rescue group earlier this week to let them know what was going on with the two new girls and have not gotten a response back. I'd hate to have to get rid of any of them but it's coming to the point where I, wait WE are going to have to decide. I just hate the thought of having to send Miley and Maggie back to the rescue because they've made such progress here with us but I realize that I have to do something before any of them gets seriously hurt or one of the princes gets hurt from being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Besides dealing with the dogs, I'm on the hunt for a new teaching position and there's NOTHING out there! I'm just mildly worried but know that I was in a tizzy when I found my current position 3 weeks after school started so I know it'll all work out. I just have to be patient.

I'm also dealing with an ex-husband who as we all know is an asshole to say the least. He refuses to talk to me about anything when it comes to the boys. He's not giving them their prescriptions, he's continuing to 'buy' their affection... now it's he's getting a dog this summer just after no more than 3 months ago he sends me a scathing letter telling me that because I have dogs I am stealing his kids away from him and now I find out from means that I won't disclose... okay, I will... he has a facebook page and I periodically check it and last night I find that he's getting an inground swimming pool this summer but the boys don't know about it. Now, how am I to 'compete' with that? Granted we go to the pool every day because of having a membership but to have a pool in your very own backyard? Now that's any kids dream!

The kicker of it all is that I'm waiting patiently for my attorney to file the motion for me to request full custody of the princes and that's been a story in itself. Supposedly the ex has never gotten the letter requesting mediation as our state now requires and supposedly my attorney has sent it several times but I'm starting to wonder. I happened to have to go to the court house on Friday and get a copy of my decree from the file and the new motion that was to be filed by Thursday was still not filed! Fortunately, my attorney's office is right next door so I walked myself over and inquired. He didn't have an answer for me and promised me that it would be in there by the end of the day on Friday. So, we'll see when I call him on Monday to find out if it was filed.

I'm losing my job, can't find one in in this god-forsaken town so now it's imperative that I try to get more child support, request that I am allowed to move out of state if need be for me to find a job in my career and most importantly, get the boys away from the idiot they have for a father. As it's only going to get worse because he's now got a girlfriend. He went to his boys' soccer games last week and spent the entire time talking to her on his cell. I know it was her because he made several loud announcements while on the phone and made sure that I was able to hear him tell her he loves her. Isn't that sweet... this is the man that wouldn't date anyone longer than 3 months because of commitment issues and wouldn't tell me he loved me until right before we walked down that fucking dreaded aisle! So, I'm sure it's true love this time. Hey, I'm all for it if it gets him to leave me the hell alone! So, more power to 'em.

Uugghhh... can there be anything else that is given to me to handle at this point in my life?


TUG said...

Oh Dear, that is a bunch of stuff at once. But the one thing that really stood out was your comment about competing against him. I know you put it in quotes, but just don't fall into that trap. The kids will eventually see past that kind of stuff and all the me.

I'd be visiting that attorney everyday until things are done correctly!

I think you're doing the right thing with the dogs. There is only so much you can do in that situation.

Hang in there! Just take things one at a time and it'll work out.

Honey said...

Tell me about it... I'm spinning out of control and going to crash soon... just hoping it's not in a padded room. Although, that might be kinda good - a litte vacation? Hmm...

I know, competing with the ex is not a good idea. I for one do not have the means to do that. Gah, if I had that kind of money laying around for a pool, I think (no pretty sure) my bills would be paid off and I wouldn't be worrying about not having a job. :) My oldest tells me that it doesn't matter what their dad does, nothing will change. Makes me feel good but I remember what it's like to be a kid in a candy store...

But my only ace is that he can spend all this money to impress his new girlfriend and make him look like he's father of the year but the kids will eventually see right through it! Plus, I'm thinking of waiting until they dig the big hole in his backyard to tell him that he's going to have to pay for half the boys tuition at school this year plus my attorney's fees. Ah... the taste of revenge is sweet... lol

And yes, I will be calling the attorney everyday freakin' day if I have to so this can get started since he told me it would take approximately 9-12 months if I have to walk into court. Just say a little prayer that the ex will not fight me on too many things... but he did tell me a few months ago that if I did anything, he'd make sure I was financially ruined. What a stellar person, eh?

Thanks for your support... that's why I love all of my blogging friends! Btw... you need to invite me to your blog. I can't read it now anymore... my email is *Muah*

Vixen said...

You can't compete. It's childish and by doing it you are stooping to your ex-asshats level. No need to on your part.

The dog situation is a tough one. I have 6 dogs and by a miracle of god they all get along....*for the most part*. That said, they all have crates that they happily love and live in when they aren't supervised.

I think it comes down to how much time you think you have to devote to the situation.


Honey said...

Vixen: You're absolutely right... I can't compete and to do so would not be in the best interest of the boys or myself. I just know that someday the boys will wake up to it all and see their 'father' for what he truly is - a jerk. Unfortunate for them because no kid should have to know this.

The pup situation... we'll see what happens after we head to Purdue to the 'crazy' dr. for them. And it seems that I will have plenty of time to devote to training them (properly) since I will be without a teaching job come June 1st.

Thanks for the support and hugs.

TUG said...

Vixen said ASSHAT! I love that term!

I'm at a new I told the Mrs about my blogging and such. I started over but nothing from the old place can be mentioned at the new one -k-?